The Rise Of The Cougar

This week, on MyFatPocket, my column is on the trend of older women dating younger men.

The Rise Of The Cougar!

My latest obsession is watching episode after episode of Cougar Town. A newly single 40 something Courtney Cox is thrown back into the dating game and realises that hey, young men find her hot! And that is what brought about today's topic – The Rise of The Cougar!

The term cougar has always been around. But in the past, a cougar was stereotypically a woman with big hair, who wore leopard print leotards two sizes too small and bright red lipstick. Cougar used to be a derogatory term for an older woman trying too hard to be sexy and preying on innocent young men.

But with the emergence of more celebrity cougars (Demi Moore, Susan Sarandon) and the Mrs Robinson character type emerging from fantasy to mainstream, the word cougar has been reclaimed. Its new meaning is a powerful, confident, independent woman of maturity, who appeals to men in their early to mid 20s!

So, if you're fed up with dating men your age (or older) and want to widen your catchment area, now's the time to check out that younger man!

The benefits of dating a younger man

1. Sex!!! Yes, he may be less experienced than what you're used to, but a young prey is an eager learner and will go all out to please you in bed. Bear in mind that women reach their sexual peak later in life, so a younger partner will have the stamina his older counterparts lack.

2. Looks. Now who isn't attracted to a healthy, tanned athletic 20-something body with nice abs?

3. Less Baggage. A younger man will probably be less jaded and cynical about love than an older man who has gone through a messy divorce or had many failed relationships.

4. Revitalising. Younger men are more spontaneous, energetic and daring. Very often, they are experiencing things for the first time, and for an older woman, a young man can be a breath of fresh air by adding a new perspective on things.

5. Biology. Women live much longer than men and an older woman may want someone who can keep up with her as she ages. Women now are also able to take better care of themselves (beauty products, surgery, etc) than in the past.

Although I'm not dating a younger man (at the moment), I'm encouraged to see that there are women out there who are confident enough to break social norms and go after what they want. Age is just a number and they're not going to let it get in the way. Kudos to the rise of the cougar!

Sunday Lemmings

My Fav Brazilian Wax place TheGoldDust has now expanded to sell lingerie :) Do check out the sexy babydolls and brazilian cut undies in time for Valentine's Day.

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This week, I got a new sexy White Dress with silver beading around the neck from Missy-Jay's CNY collection. Love it! It's slinky and very flattering to most figures. The halter neckline is made up of ropes of silver beads.

Mark's best friend C was in SG for the weekend so we all went down to Morton's at Mandarin Oriental for dinner. Love mortons!

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Today (Sunday) we're going to have a big Sunday brunch because it's my grandparent's (dad's mom and dad) 60th anniversary! 60TH!!!!! Imagine that!

:( Mark won't be able to make it though, since his friend is only in SG for 3 days. Show u pics of the event tmrw.

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Also, my fellow shopaholics, the apparelaffair.sg site has been revamped.

You Looking Good This Chinese New Year?

The year of the tiger is coming! And it's actually going to be a bad year for Monkeys like me. :(

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I don't have a reunion dinner or houses to vist or any ang pows to collect, so I can't really say that I celebrate Chinese New Year. But I know that for most of my friends, it's a huge occassion and everyone has spring cleaning, booze, food, gambling, reunions, money and new clothes.

For me, I only have the new clothes. (but I'm not complaining about that!)

Have you got your Clothes for CNY yet??? Now's the time to stock up because all the blogshops are having new collections and CNY promotions!

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Use code HJB at ApparelAffair.sg and get 5% off the purchase of 1 dress or get 2 dresses for $50

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My Fav is the Season Special Toga in Hot Gorgeous Pink (S$28)

(my pic was taken by PinkElephantLabs)

It's got a black floral lace toga top, with a hot pink tube underneath and a black pleated skirt. Everything is in one piece. The back of the top is smocked so it will give a nice fit. It's also available in a dark blue. But pink is prettier IMHO!

Also check out their pretty florals.

Their new collection has all sorts of different back designs.

The heart shaped back is a must for Valentine's!

Postage is Free. And don't forget to quote HJB for your discounts.

Happy Shopping @ ApparelAffair, girls!

Banglah Hits On ME ???!!!!

You know what?

I was at Loyang Point a few days ago having dinner with mom. Then she went to Sheng Song supermarket (or how ever you spell it). There is this luckydraw at the bottom of every receipt. My mom passed it to me, and told me to fill it in and put it into the box.

I made some noise and sulky face, cos I think this is a waste of time, I did it once looong ago and didn't win so I think it's bullshit. Anywayyyy... that's not the point.

I filled it out while standing at the lucky draw box, using the corner of the lucky draw box as a table to write. And I was scribbling DAMN FAST... Because I think it's such an aunty thing to do; fill out sheng song supermarket lucky draw forms (!), so I was embarassed and wrote very quickly.

I did notice a few Bagladeshi workers because they were standing too close for comfort. But I just ignored them. Banglahs always have a knack for walking too close by, staring as if they've never seen women before or getting in your personal space.

So I dropped the lucky draw into the box. It's a transparent box, and the hole on top is damn big, like... I can squeeze my head in if I wanted to.

After that, I walked hurriedly to the taxi stand because my mom as usual, walked off to the taxi stand after asking me to do something (in this instance, it was to fill in the lucky draw form). I was probably in a grumpy mood by the way, cos I hate it when she expects me to be freaking Flash Gordon.

While walking to the taxi stand, my phone rings. I yank it out of my pocket "Hello?"... but nobody answers. I dive into the waiting taxi. I forget about the anonymous phone call.

Ok fast forward my story. Today, I get this SMS:
The whole SMS reads: "Hi how r u now? Please u dont angry to me . Because yester day u writing time I see u & take your number. U also see me ready . U come from? R u married? I know u very beautyful girl. Please u dont wrong understand me. I hope u happy & longlive."

At first I thought, WTF, English is horrible. And I thought it was a wrong number. Then I read it again, and it dawned on me that it was one of the Banglahs at Loyang Point who either had bionic eyes and managed to memorise my number as I scribbled it super fast, or he fished my lucky draw coupon out. Which is not entirely impossible, since its a transparent box, and you can keep your eye on where the paper lands.

That paper has not just my phone number but my address too!

But I don't think he's any danger.

I'm just very very peeved that this bagladeshi construction worker who hardly speaks english, smells of 3 day old sweat, holds other Bangla men's hands, thinks he has a shot with me!!!! *indignant shriek*

Reminds me of this one not great looking (i got to be careful not to just call people ugly while using a public domain, lest some very anal people go on and on about me being shallow, blah blah)...(haha)... so yes, this not great looking chinese man who lives somewhere in my block, chatted me up while in the lift. I mean, I smile at most people who are in my block/lift... but that's just being friendly.. it's not an invitation to try to bed me or something right?!

Yeah, well, he had very yellow teeth and bad breath too. And he asked for my number (!), and I POLITELY declined. "No, I don't think it's a good idea, sorry."

But he persisted, "I seldom bumps into u, so if got your number can just call mah."

And I said , " but I have a BF".

And the fucker still didn't get the message, " Nevermind we go drink only mah."

Seriously dude, WTF? Go brush your teeth, and go hit on some girl that's in your league. Say perhaps the woman who serves you Tiger at the coffeeshop. I'm not even interested in being your friend.

And when a girl doesn't want to give you her number, she's not interested! Getting her number with the intention of pestering her, isn't going to do you any favours. So just leave it.

I am not worried that he might read this, because he didn't look like he knew how to switch a computer on, much less own one. Yes, it was THAT bad.

Get Valentine's Day Potraits of You and Your Love!

Pink Elephant Labs specialises in family, newborn, maternity and children's photography. Their shoots are usually bright, colourful and lots of fun and that's pretty much the style of their photography.

So precious! I wish my parents had studio pics taken of me when I was a baby!!

They do both outdoor and indoor shoots. Studio package starts at $118/outdoor packages start at $298.

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Grab their V-day promo offer at just $50!

And you'll get 20mins in front of the camera (in-studio), 5 x 5R prints (with high-resolution files).

The images go through post-processing to ensure that you get the best pictures. It's always a great idea to get High-resolution files to keep, that way you can print Huge pictures to put up on walls or use the images for other things later on ( like creating calendars/ coffeetable books).

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I think it's a fab idea to get professionally taken couple shots with your GF/BF ! But it's also sweet as a parent and child shot, best friends or sisters, etc.

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If you want to add on to this Valentine's package, you can opt for individual poses, the cost for 1 adult is $20 (session will be extended by 15 minutes). This covers the cost of the additional time added to the session, and any prints ordered is separate.

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The Valentine's promotion is only for 5th, 6th and 7th Feb. Sessions available from 9 am to 5 pm. But you have to reserve your preferred session asap :Call 97821958 !

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I had a Valentine's session done there 2 days ago. And because Mark was overseas, I brought my best friend N instead. :)

No worries if you've never done this kinda thing before, the atmosphere is relaxed and the photographer knows how to put people at ease. In just five minutes we were all laughing, smiling and having fun with their Valentine's Themed props!

Click Here to check out their Facebook Fan Page.

Email: pinkelephantlabs@gmail.com

Contact: 97821958

(Blogshops owners who are looking to get professional shots of their collections done, do contact them!)

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Will share more pics later on. Heading out to dinner now....

P/s- Dresses N & I wore for the shoot were from ClubCouture, ApparelAffair & BlackhairPins.

Boys Like Girls at Resorts World!

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Sony’s brand mantra for 2010 is “make.believe" (make dot believe). It symbolizes the spirit of Sony which is- the power of creativity, the ability to turn ideas into reality and the belief that anything you can imagine, you can make real.

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My first make.believe experience of the year was at the Boys Like Girls concert at Resorts World, Sentosa. (28 Jan 2010)

Pictures of the concert taken with the new Sony Cyber-Shot DSC-TX1 !

The TX1 measures 3.75 inches wide, 2.4 tall and weighs a svelte 5 ounces with battery and card.

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I love this camera because it's incredibly compact, has handheld Twilight mode (no more blur shakey pics!) and Sweep Panorama mode.

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Sweep Panorama is ULTRA COOL! It lets you make horizontal and vertical panoramas in-camera. I just point, shoot and glide the camera along, then it makes one panorama shot. So clever! LOVES!
It also comes in pink! But I used the Gray one. Booooo! haha :)

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Boys Like Girls is made up of 4 boys; Martin(the lead and also the cutest in my opinion!), John, Paul and Bryan. Their latest album released late last year is LoveDrunk.

The concert was held at Resorts World Sentosa. It was my first time there... the place is crazy HUGE!

I went with my old College and Uni friend Bessie :)

My buddy Jason was there too.

Whenever I go to concerts, I love to be mesmerised as well as entertained. (Otherwise might was well just listen to the MP3 at home right!?)

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The boys put on a great show. The lighting effects were fantastic.

Good music plus being immersed in a flood of sparkly stars. It was surreal. This is a panoramic shot of the stage and surroundings.

Click pic to view larger image.

Although I wasn't one of the hysterically screaming female teenage fans there...(far too old for that!), I did have a good time.

Thank you Bessie for driving us there :)

Then we ended the night by having late night dinner (more like supper) at The Playground (EastCoast).

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Are You A BLG Fan???

I've got two Autographed Boys Like Girls poster for 2 Lucky Readers!

All you have to do is tweet this line :

Hey @hollyjean69 . I want tht autographed Boys Like Girls Poster #make.believe www.holly--jean.blogspot.com/2010/02/boys-like-girls.html

And I'll pick 2 winners this Wednesday by replying to his/her tweet!

It's going to be a fabulously fun year. Together with Sony, I'll bring you more updates, more concerts, and contests for you ( I cannot disclose the prize yet.. but you're gonnaaaa looove it!) ... so watch this space!

Next week- Kris Allen concert :)

Remember...

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